As I said in the previous post, the benefit went really well itself. A lot of my family works together at the same place. My dad, my mom, my husband and my uncle all work at the same place. I worked there while I was in college. We all worked in the same department, so I know these people and they know me.
I found out at the benefit that one of my old co-workers is pregnant. She is 8 weeks and just going around blabbing it to everybody. I was sitting eating and was just trying to breathe in and breathe out and not completely loose my shit. A few tiny tears fell but I was ok. I was upset because this girl is 22 years old, not married, doesn't want this baby. It upsets me so much when people don't want their babies. I mean, that's all I want.
So, there are 4 women that either work with my husband or their husbands work with mine that are all pregnant. There are a few others that have just recently had babies. I avoided their table on Saturday because honestly, what can I contribute to the conversation. I'm sure they were all sharing labor stories or stories about young babies. I have nothing to contribute to that conversation, except what I know from working in labor and delivery, but even that doesn't feel good enough.
I then realized how hard it must be for my poor DH. I complain about being around pregnant women and babies every day and about how it's hard. My DH is in the same situation, that's what a lot of his co-workers are talking about. The difference is, I chose to work in labor and delivery. He works in IT. I'm sure he never thought that people would be talking about babies and pregnancy non-stop. I'm sure he also never thought that hearing people discuss all of this could stir so many emotions.
So, to all those men out there, that stand strong and never talk about their struggles with IF, please, speak up. I feel like you are forgotten about all too often. I'm sorry that you know all too well what the pain of IF feels like.
To my DH, I love you so much! I'm glad you are by my side throughout this crazy ride. Thanks for being strong for me and knowing what to say to make me feel better. I love you!
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AF = Aunt Flo (menstruation/period)
B/W = Bloodwork
BCP = Birth Control Pills
Beta = Blood pregnancy test
BFN = Big Fat Negative (negative pg test)
BFP = Big Fat Positive (positive pg test)
CD = Cycle Day
DH = Dear/Darling Husband
DPO = Days Past Ovulation
E2 = Estradiol (Estrogen)
ER = Egg Retrieval
ET = Embryo Transfer
FET = Frozen Embryo Transfer
FMU = First Morning Urine
FSH = Follicle Stimulating Hormone
H&H = Happy and Healthy
HCG = Human Chorionic Gonadotropin
HOM = High Order Multiples
HPT = Home Pregnancy Test
HSC = Hysteroscopy
HSG = Hysterosalpingogram
IB = Implantation Bleeding
ICSI = Intracytoplasmic Sperm Injection
IF = Infertility
IM = Intramuscular
IR = Insulin Resistant
IUI = Intra-uterine Insemination
IVF = In Vitro Fertilization
LH = Luteinizing hormone
LMP = Last Menstrual Period
LOL = Laugh Out Loud
LPD = Luteal Phase Defect
M/C = Miscarriage
MFI = Male Factor Infertility (ex, low sperm count)
OHSS = Ovarian Hyperstimulation Syndrome
OPK = Ovulation Predictor Kit
OV = Ovulation
P4 = Progesterone
PCOS = Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome
PG = Pregnant
PNV = Pre-natal vitamin
POAS = Pee on a Stick (ex, take a pregnancy test)
RE = Reproductive Endocrinologist (Infertility Specialist)
S/A = Sperm/Semen Analysis
TMI = Too Much Information
TSH = Thyroid Stimulating Hormone
TTC = Trying to Conceive
U/S = Ultrasound
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Learning the Lingo in case I start writing in code:
2WW = 2 Week Wait (the two weeks after ovulation and before AF arrives)AF = Aunt Flo (menstruation/period)
B/W = Bloodwork
BCP = Birth Control Pills
Beta = Blood pregnancy test
BFN = Big Fat Negative (negative pg test)
BFP = Big Fat Positive (positive pg test)
CD = Cycle Day
DH = Dear/Darling Husband
DPO = Days Past Ovulation
E2 = Estradiol (Estrogen)
ER = Egg Retrieval
ET = Embryo Transfer
FET = Frozen Embryo Transfer
FMU = First Morning Urine
FSH = Follicle Stimulating Hormone
H&H = Happy and Healthy
HCG = Human Chorionic Gonadotropin
HOM = High Order Multiples
HPT = Home Pregnancy Test
HSC = Hysteroscopy
HSG = Hysterosalpingogram
IB = Implantation Bleeding
ICSI = Intracytoplasmic Sperm Injection
IF = Infertility
IM = Intramuscular
IR = Insulin Resistant
IUI = Intra-uterine Insemination
IVF = In Vitro Fertilization
LH = Luteinizing hormone
LMP = Last Menstrual Period
LOL = Laugh Out Loud
LPD = Luteal Phase Defect
M/C = Miscarriage
MFI = Male Factor Infertility (ex, low sperm count)
OHSS = Ovarian Hyperstimulation Syndrome
OPK = Ovulation Predictor Kit
OV = Ovulation
P4 = Progesterone
PCOS = Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome
PG = Pregnant
PNV = Pre-natal vitamin
POAS = Pee on a Stick (ex, take a pregnancy test)
RE = Reproductive Endocrinologist (Infertility Specialist)
S/A = Sperm/Semen Analysis
TMI = Too Much Information
TSH = Thyroid Stimulating Hormone
TTC = Trying to Conceive
U/S = Ultrasound
5 comments:
You know I love you and that we'll be strong together dealing with everything.
I feel dumb when I tell people things like this, but I started to get emotional last night when I was watching Lost. You don't know who they are, but Claire was having baby Aaron again (yes, she gave birth to the same baby twice.) I just kept thinking how much I wish I had a baby that I could hold in my arms. I don't know what I'd do if I didn't have the cat and dogs to cuddle with at night, since I don't have the baby I want.
What a sweet thing to recognize. I just realized last week how much our struggles have affected my husband. He broke down and cried last week as I had to undergo surgery to remove an ectopic pregnancy. And as for watching LOST last night......I think we both were a wreck! Cheers to our significant others and all their support after all it's just as much their struggle as it is ours.
ICLW#96
I feel for you. That's a lot of pregnant women to encounter at once.
And I love that you wrote about this. They're always there for us, giving pep talks, picking up the pieces, making sure we're OK, but they're experiencing the heartbreak too.
I try to remember that every time I start to complain to my hubby. I never hear him complain.
ICLW
I have always felt that the husbands were always 'forgotten' when there are pregancy difficulties whether it be infertility or miscarriage. I have both of you in my heart everyday.
Love Mom
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